Me Connecting The Dots – Do what you love…

Career – Dreams – Lifestyle – News – And more…

Leave a comment

No more International Women’s Day!

Hello everyone,

Today it’s International Women’s Day. It is celebrated in many countries around the world. It is a day when women are recognized for their achievements. It is also an occasion for looking back on past struggles and accomplishments, and more importantly, for looking ahead to the untapped potential and opportunities that await future generations of women. |Source: United Nations|

Much progress has been made to protect and promote women’s rights in recent years. However, nowhere in the world can women claim to have all the same rights and opportunities as men, according to the UN.
Women’s equality has made positive gains but the world is still unequal. International Women’s Day celebrates the social, political and economic achievements of women while focusing world attention on areas requiring further action.

I think it’s good that we are paying attention to these subjects every year. But I hope that there will be one day with no more International Women’s Day. Which means that we do not have to recognize women for their achievements as something extraordinary anymore! No, it’s normal that women can have great accomplishments. Which means it’s normal that women have all the same rights and opportunities as men! Which means there is equal pay for women and men for equal work!
I’m waiting for this day to come. I know it will!

Many people, organizations and brands are celebrating this day with inspiring videos and images. To conclude and celebrate this day, I want to share some with you.

Every woman should be able to follow their dreams! – L’Oréal

President Barack Obama

Women Dreams Obama

Women make it happen! – Kiva

Hillary Clinton

Hillary Clinton IWD

Happy International Women’s Day!

:) Helen

Song of the Day: Run The World (Girls) – Beyoncé



Last year in my twenties…

Hello everyone,

Next week is my 29th birthday. Which means that ‘three zero’ is nearby…
I don’t know what it is, but it just feels like getting old and really stepping into the grown up world. I’m even a bit scared of it. But luckily I still have one year in my twenties.

I guess the feeling of being scared of 30 is because I feel like I haven’t accomplished anything yet. In an ideal world (my ideal world) I would be well on my way to a fulfilling career at my dream job, have a stable relationship, and know what I want in life. In reality I am single and I’m doubting my career choice. The problem is that I don’t even know what exactly my dream job is. Something in Cosmetics? Fashion? Food? Entertainment? I’m working in the Food industry right now, so defining my dream job is not only about which industry to work for. I feel like I am missing something in my current job, but I can’t tell what exactly…

Why does my ideal world look like that? Is it the expectation of society that we should be having a nice job and a relationship by our thirties? Or is it the clock that’s ticking (as a woman it is a nice age to start thinking about having babies)? Somehow, I feel an internal pressure to hurry up because 30 is around the corner. It’s hard to explain, but I feel the urge to start working on something meaningful, something big…
It also doesn’t help when one subject always pops up at family gatherings: “Don’t you have a boyfriend yet?”. “You’re a woman, career is not that important, starting a family is the most important thing in life.” I totally disagree with that. I think that we should be able to have both: career and family. I hope that one day I can accomplish that.QLC

I start to wonder, am I in a so-called Quarterlife crisis? “The quarterlife crisis (QLC) is a period of life usually ranging from the late teens to the early thirties, in which a person begins to feel doubtful about their own lives, brought on by the stress of becoming an adult.” Experts describe a QLC as a sense of panic that your life, career, relationships, etc. isn’t where you want it to be. |Source: Wikipedia|

It sounds very familiar to me. Apparently two thirds of young adults experience this. So I’m not the only one. I guess I really should not be complaining. There are so many people in the world that don’t even get to make their own choices in life. And in the end, 30 is just a number. I should be happy that I’m getting older and have a life in front of me to chase my dreams.

2014 Will be a year where I’ll try to let go of my expectations of what (my) adulthood should be like. It doesn’t matter that some of my friends are getting married, having babies or starting their own business. I should not compare myself to others. Life is too short to daydream it away wishing you had someone else’s. Twenty nine, I’m ready!

:) Helen

P.S. Thinking about accomplishments, I have to congratulate the Dutch skaters who have already won 17 medals after
just one week at the Olympic Games. Today, the Dutch women dominated the 1500m speedskating by becoming
1st, 2nd, 3rd and 4th!

1 Comment

Connecting the dots…

Hello everyone,

Here it is, my first post!

Movies, Music, Dance, Musical, and Theatre were the first things that I wrote down. Next were: Fashion, Beauty, Lifestyle, News, Society, Charity work, Photography, Marketing, Health and Languages. I could even name a few more. But these were the ones that I wrote down when I was asked to write down my interests/passion.
It was at a Seminar ‘Live your Life Mission’ (‘Leef je Levensmissie’ in Dutch) which I attended on a Saturday in November. |Trainer of the Seminar: Arnout Visscher|

What is your goal, your mission? What matters to you? And how are you going to make sure that you are doing the things that you actually want to do? These were the main topics of the Seminar. Throughout the day we made excercises and had interactive discussions in smaller groups. At the end of the day we all had to imagine we were 92 years old and write a letter to a friend. The letter will be send to our home address in 9 months.

I attended this Seminar because I have so many different interests and I don’t know what I exactly want. Since I graduated, I always wanted to find my dream job. And likely this dream job at least contains one of the interests which I wrote down. Currently I am working as a Brand Manager, so Marketing is covered. I have great colleagues and I am slowly getting more and more responsibilities. But there is something inside of me that feels that this isn’t enough. Is it because my job has nothing to do with my other interests? Then again, why should these interests relate to my job? Life is not only about your career. On the other hand, there are enough examples of people doing what they love, who turned their passion into a career. So, why can’t I?

What I learned is that your life mission is not a destination, it’s a process, a journey on which your goals and dreams might change along the way. One important advice at the Seminar was: Start by spending 10 percent of your time on things that interest you. Who knows what it may turn into. As Steve Jobs said: “You can’t connect the dots looking forward you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” |Steve Jobs 2005 Stanford Commencement Address| Connecting the dots...

So that’s what I intend to do. I will use this blog to share things that I’m interested in, career related topics, what’s in the news and my journey. I also see this as a kind of experiment. If I start spending 10 percent of my time on the things that I like and love, what will happen? Will it become clear to me what my life mission is? Will it lead me to that dream job that I always wanted? I’m about to discover…

:) Helen

Song of the day: I was here – Beyonce